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Twelve Steps for Caregivers

  1. Although I cannot control the disease process, I need to remember I can control many aspects of how it affects my relative.
  2. I need to take care of myself, so that I can continue doing the things that are most important.
  3. I need to simplify my lifestyle so that my time and energy are available for things that are really important at this time.
  4. I need to cultivate the gift of allowing others to help me because caring for my relative is too big a job to be done by one person.
  5. I need to take one day at a time rather than worry about what may or may not happen in the future.
  6. I need to structure my day because a consistent schedule makes life easier for me and my relative.
  7. I need to have a sense of humour because laughter helps to put things in a more positive perspective.
  8. I need to remember that my relative is not being difficult on purpose; rather that his behaviour and emotions are distorted by the illness.
  9. I need to focus on and enjoy what my relative can still do rather than constantly lament over what is gone.
  10. I need to increasingly depend upon other relationships for love and support.
  11. I need to frequently remind myself that I am doing the best that I can at this very moment.
  12. I need to draw upon the Higher Power, which I believe is available to me.

(compiled by Ms. Nilanjana Maulik)

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